Signs I’m Starting To Become An Adult

You become a legal adult at the age of 18 in the United States, but you aren’t really. Generally, when you turn 18, you’re still in high school and living at home. After that, there’s college. Drinking all night, sleeping until 11 a.m. and playing Halo all day, every day, hardly constitutes an adult.

Now that I’m done with college, it’s starting to set in that the real world is knocking at my door (or kicking it in without a search warrant). Before, adulthood was something in the distant future. I was working toward a degree; there was a finish line in the distance that I couldn’t yet see. But before I knew it, the race was over.

Now, to the point of this post. Lately, I’ve started to notice signs that I’m entering adulthood. I’m not completely there yet, but the process has started.


The tie. Is there a more universal symbol of the man? A silk noose that chokes away all your hopes and dreams. Okay, maybe that’s a little melodramatic. But I am starting to see ties in my everyday life more often.

When I was younger I had few occasions for ties. Once in a while, there was a dance, a graduation or maybe the odd wedding, but that was about it. I didn’t have the need for a rack full of ties. But now there are more weddings (which I’ll get to later), more graduations, more job interviews, more award banquets and, sadly, more funerals. My collection of about four ties has expanded to 15 or 20.

Gone are the days when I could wear a pair of khakis and a polo to a job interview. Now it’s all business. I find myself buying a tie because it would work well with a certain dress shirt or because I have an interview coming up. Ties are almost a necessity.

Ties. The marker of adulthood.


Weddings used to be a rarity. Every five or six years I would attend one or hear tell of a friend or relative tying the knot. Now that I’m into my 20’s It seems like I hear about a wedding every other week.

My cousins, my friends from college and my friends from high school are all getting married. “Did you hear ____ is getting married!?” and digital photos of  meticulously cut gemstones are becoming constants in my life. I don’t know, maybe it just seems like it because I hear about (and see) every engagement, every wedding and every baby via Facebook.

One thing is for sure, though. I won’t be getting married anytime soon.

Mazel Tov!

Punk-Ass Kids

I was a stereotypical annoying teenager. I’m not proud of it, but it happened. I was especially bad in middle school and my first year of high school. My friends and I were guilty of emulating Jackass and CKY.  We loitered at convenience stores; We talked and threw popcorn during movies;  We sneaked out after curfew; We skateboarded where we shouldn’t have; We basically drew the ire of anyone 18 or older.

The tables have turned, though. I’m the older buzzkill. Whether I’m at a department store, restaurant or baseball game, I constantly get irritated by adolescents. I’m the one telling teenagers to, “Shut up!” at the movies. I’m the one shaking my head and mumbling, “Damn kids.” Basically, I’m turning into my Dad. When I was younger I thought he was being a gruff old man. It turns out he was right, and now I realize what an incredible pain in the ass I was.

Calling It A Night

In college, not partying until the crack of dawn was immediate grounds for being called a nancy-boy. My friends and I would go to a party or bar until we were kicked out, go to an afterhours and then go to a greasy spoon diner. Then we would do it AGAIN the next night and maybe the next night. Just typing that, I realize how ridiculous that cycle was.

That type of night rarely happens now. It doesn’t happen for many reasons. One, I’m living in a quiet suburb rather than a college town. Two, I’m living at my parent’s home in quiet suburb. Three, I have interviews to go to and a job search to conduct. Four, I just can’t drink like that anymore.

A Considerably Different Facebook Page

A couple of years ago, my friends, peers and even I would post almost anything on Facebook. Profile picture featuring a beer bong? Check. Status questioning the boss’ or teacher’s manhood? Check. Drinking listed as an “interest”? Check. Besides all that, a lot of people’s profiles were relatively public (by their own choosing). But thanks to law enforcement and potential employers using Facebook and Facebook’s creepy disregard for privacy, many people turned their profile private, removed information from their profile or deleted their profile completely.

As my college graduation loomed, I noticed a trend on Facebook. The vast majority of my friends made all their “tagged” pictures private, edited/purged their personal information and posted a plain, family-friendly profile picture. I even know several people who have two profiles: One for friends with a slightly altered name and one for professional purposes. It’s understandable. The fact is, employers are looking at Facebook and how you represent yourself is how you represent the company. There’s no sense in losing a job because of that picture of you with a bottle of tequila, a stripper and a lack of pants.

Speaking of jobs…

It's true.

Unemployment Is Embarrassing

My Dad comes from the “We’ll work, your job is to study and go to college” school of thought. Although recently, he’s moved to the “Now you can work so you can get out of my house” camp.

Growing up, I was lucky. I come from a middle-class family. It wasn’t necessary for me to work in high school. The only reason to have a job was for extra spending money, which was usually spent on video games and CDs. Toward the end of high school, I had a seasonal part-time job. I also had part-time jobs during college summers and a part-time job for the entirety of my senior year of college. But when I didn’t have a job it wasn’t a big deal. I was studying to earn a degree and if I had to, I could always hit up my parents for $20 here and there. As long as that was the case, no one asked any questions. But now…

I’m done with school and that means I’m supposed to get a job. I’ve been trying, but opportunities have been few and far between. At parties or other social functions it’s embarrassing when someone (a family friend or family member) asks what I’m doing. Usually my Mom answers before I can, “Well, he’s been looking for a job. He’s had a couple of interviews but nothing so far…” I prefer that to my Dad’s introductions. On several visits to his workplace, he introduced me as “my unemployed son.”

I know the economy still isn’t great and the print media industry is struggling, but I still get the suspicion  that when people find out that the I’m unemployed they think, “Really? You couldn’t find a job in all the time since graduation?” Also, living at home has really made me feel like a freeloading loser.

But that might be changing soon. More details on that to come later. In the meantime, enjoy this motivational poster:

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261 thoughts on “Signs I’m Starting To Become An Adult

  1. roundrockgarden says:

    Hey man, I feel you completely! What gets me is all of the parental wisdom that I once scorned now coming out of my mouth as I try to explain to my teenage daughter … Ah well, life is certainly full of twists and surprises!

  2. Raul says:

    Great Post and oh so true!! I remember being in the group of annoying high school kids and now I get irritated when I see them in groups. But, you know, I think I actually enjoy life more at 30 than I did at 21. I do a heck of a lot more and I have a much better perspective on life.

  3. SavvY says:

    The same is true everywhere else in the world. . . I am kinda like in this situation. . .

  4. mooreclick says:

    My husband and I are noticing that, at 27, we’re now old people. We go to bed at a reasonable hour, and care about things like retirement benefits and health insurance. When I was looking for jobs in college, I only cared if I’d be able to take the day off for Warped Tour.

    Did I just say my husband and I? Jesus…

  5. Allison Huyett says:

    How great is this!

  6. alaugh says:

    So this post made me laugh, but also kind of scared the crap out of me. I graduate from high school in three days…
    And coincidently I want to have a very similar career to your um, aspiration? (Even the living in Chicago part, haha.) No, you’ve done a whole lot. Definitely more than I can say. Good luck. I’m sure you don’t need it though. But I enjoy your blog!
    Alex Laughlin

  7. florb63 says:

    Great post. I’m still in college and revel in the fact that I haven’t worn a tie in years, nor do I know if I still own any. I’m entering adulthood kicking and screaming. 🙂

  8. fantasyimogene says:

    Good luck. You will find an awesome job. Most college grads are temping right now.

  9. jcartermarketing says:

    This post could be my life in girl form. I have a job though (sorry don’t want to rub it in) Either way, hilarious post.

  10. callofkairos says:

    Loved this post! You nailed the adulthood thing. I don’t wear ties myself, but I remember when my then-boyfriend exchanged his wardrobe of video game character T-shirts for matching ties and shirts…

  11. I agree with everything on here. Especially the punk ass kids. I never thought I would be so annoyed by teenagers.

  12. Moranna says:

    Very refreshing! Do hope you find employment soon so that your Dad casn find other annoying ways to introduce you!!

  13. ramykhalaf says:

    I enjoyed reading this, well done on becoming a man ;D I get to wear my first tie on saturday 😛

  14. bookjunkie says:

    I can totally relate to your woes of unemployment especially having to answer questions about it at social events. Great great article!! 🙂

  15. Pammy Girl says:

    I find myself cursing the younger generation who is loud during a movie or runs in front of my car or the ones who wear pants so tight I’m sure they can’t breathe. But sometimes I envy them and wish I was an idiot again rather than a responsible adult.

    P.S. You’ll get a job. This economy sucks (sorry about your timing) so it will take a while. Or you could go back to school and put off adulthood for a few more years. Isn’t growing up super fun?

  16. thewhatnow2 says:

    this was interesting and fun to read. My Facebook is also filled with engagements and births. It’s odd becoming an adult, but it has its good things too, I think. 🙂

  17. really well written and funny 😀

    now, I just hope your dad will be able to introduce you as “my employed son”, pretty soon!

  18. Thanks for a laugh… unfortunately I’ve had to work full time since I graduated high school and miss out on all the crazy college partying because my oh so inspiring and educational courses are online. I was the only college freshman I knew that had half of my closet dedicated to ‘business professional’ clothing and was in bed by 10pm… but for all that I still have similar moments where I realize I’m getting older. I recently purchased a crock-pot and a) realized this is something my mom or grandmother owns b) for a moment I was genuinely excited about using it.

    Good luck with the job hunt!

  19. Chris says:

    Well written, I enjoyed the read and can relate, thanks!

  20. Hilarious post! Really made me think and giggle. Great writing!

  21. Shazzam! says:

    i always have a problem with the age thing though, i think i stopped aging (well, just for now) but becoming an adult, that’s one i couldn’t escape =)

  22. Dan says:

    A good read and well written, I’m not at the tie stage yet. I do look forward to it, however I should enjoy where I’m at now. 🙂

  23. ahahaaa this is really good. I think one of the most important things about growing up is understanding your parents. As soon as you start thinking “Yeah..they’ve got a point there”, there is no going back.

  24. Mid-twenties are horrifying, aren’t they? Unemployment IS embarrassing, and I’m right there with you. I’ve also found myself wandering through Barnes & Noble on a Friday night, muttering about the “god damn teenagers” and their “obnoxious f*ing antics.” Even my parents are more tolerant than I am. =P I sound more like my 85 year old grandfather, on occasion.

    Congrats on being Freshly Pressed!

  25. Michael Horn says:

    I already feel that way and i’m 17. I mean sure i’m in no rush to go anywhere the next day or anything, but you can still feel some pressure as the years go on. Great read. Thanks for sharing.

  26. myatama says:

    And about the ties, for a girl, the sign of adulthood (in my case at least) are “heels”. From a life of sneakers to a life of slacks and heels.

  27. rubiescorner says:

    Hope you find a career you enjoy and I hope you stay at that for a long time.

  28. jvsalayo says:

    NIce one. You’re good with words. You could earn your dough by writing. Keep writing and opportunities will be there soon.

  29. christycat says:

    Hi, I’m from Singapore and oh wow…I’m in the same boat as you! I’ve finished my studies some months ago…and I’m having a lot trouble finding a job. 😦

    There could be a potential one soon…so I’m keeping my fingers crossed. But I guess in the meantime we should keep sending resumes out.

    Great writing by the way 🙂

  30. jwoodphotography says:

    I feel like I’m an 84 year old woman stuck in a 23 year old body (with a bagillion cats and bags included). Then today, I sneezed and almost peed a little. Bring on the menopause!
    However, I still enjoy a round or fifteen of some Modern Warfare 2.

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  32. 12:45 says:

    Good luck with the job hunt!! The job for you is out there and you’ll find it. I love this post. Adulthood is somewhat frightening and impossible to escape from.


  33. hearttypat says:

    I love your post! Well… this year, I’m turning 30. sucks. But I’m not going to hide!

  34. imaginemeim says:

    Gosh I loved reading this!

  35. Austin says:

    “my unemployed son” LOL

    I read this and think of my second roommate upstairs. I rent the back part of the house from his father. Anyway, after 13 years on the job, after great money, an existing 401K and a nice place to live he simply walked away from it. He had a bad day at work and quit. After quitting a job of 13 years he lost his house, car and pretty much everything else then ended up living in his old room in his father’s house.

    It seems he got older but never grew up. He didn’t think about the steps he took before he took them. He didn’t look forward much and hardly ever looks back to analyze his path. I hope you look backwards as well as think of the future before you consider your steps. Weight the consequences and benefits, take a few chances and trust a bit. I think you’ll be just fine. And for the love of all that his holy learn from the mistakes of others. You. will. be. fine.


  36. alecxvi says:


    Seems like I’m not the only one feeling a bit old. Never thought that it would come so fast nor so stealthily, but I too am scorning the teenagers (god they are annoying), patrolling facebook, and calling it a night way earlier than I used to!

    I do wonder how those dude from Jackass felt… Were they really that way, or was that just another MTV ploy.

    It seems to me some people just “mature” faster than others, which is not necessarily a bad thing.

  37. Ugh, I totally feel you on this. I graduated from college in 2009, and I’m still trying to find a “real” job. Right now I’m working retail as an hourly associate instead of teaching, which is what I went to school for. Also, I’m not freaked out by all the weddings (I got married while still in college) but the alarming rate at which people are popping out babies is crazy to me. I live in a military town now too, and everyone is always pregnant here, even people who are 18 or 19. Sometimes I still feel like I’m 16, and then I realize I’m 23 and it blows my mind.

  38. Jewel says:

    What’s up!

    This is very true….as you move into adulthood, things start rapidly changing. It is scary, but you got to make that conversion. What got me was….. moving out and getting hit with those bills. Bomber!

  39. Lu2Ar says:

    First of all I have to say that the picture you put on your blog- I know the actors, but I am not good at remembering celebrity’s names, hehe- attracted my attention the most::P
    I guess sooner or later you have to show your readers your tie collections, hehe
    Nice blog!
    greetings from afar

  40. akantos says:

    AHAHHAHAHA that was I great post. Sorry to laugh like that.
    The good thing is you have an incredible sense of observation and you action will value your future. Don’t be anxious about that now! Enjoy and work out this moment. Some years from now you’ll probably laugh of this and will be proud of yourself. I do most of time! Good luck with the job matters!

  41. jensengroup says:


  42. Hilarious post and so true all at the same time. Wait until you have children. Then you’ll feel like a clueless adult and you’ll want your parents to move in with you!

  43. abesheet says:

    The day I realized I was becoming an adult was when I noticed everyone I see in the street seems to be either younger or same age as me. That was shocking. Everybody else used to be older or same age as me.

  44. ckellywho says:

    This is absolutely fantastic.

  45. mebeingreal says:

    I know how you feel…

  46. I’ve just finished college too and am dealing with the unemployment bit, don’t worry you’re not alone. But the Facebook part is a given. HR (big brother) checks those.

  47. burkpkrohe says:

    Thanks to you all for reading this! The response had been incredible.

  48. […] Today on Freshly Pressed I happened across this lovely little blog post from Burk Krohe: Signs I’m Starting To Become An Adult. Middle-class kid, college graduate, living at home, trying to find a job. He sees neckties and […]

  49. pheebs89 says:

    “I swear to God. I will never be like my mother… hey stop that you idiot kids!… Aw crap I’m my mother.”

    This is exactly how I’m feeling towards the end of uni, watching everyone get impregnated and married in alternation. And I’m also just getting on the career ladder, but as I haven’t finished my studies, my to-ing and fro-ing has not been to my advantage.

    I feel your pain.

  50. moverholser says:

    OMG This is hilarious. I just graduated college and have been noticing those same things! Especially the weddings!! I think 50% of the people i went to hs with are now married, pregnant, or engaged!

    It’s interesting how I feel people at this age are getting married at younger ages!

  51. ninja423 says:

    love this post! and I understand about the wedding issue all over Facebook. I attend a small Bible College and the word “Bible” has been unofficially replaced with “bridal” (much to the dismay of our Dean) due to the number of students who fall in love and are married either during college or right after graduation…

  52. skillets says:

    This post gives me hope for the younger generations who act like little jackasses on a daily basis.

    I’m 37, and it’s beyond strange to be this age and still feel 21 in my head…Yes, we must “grow up” on the outside, and do grown-up things to support ourselves…but I’ve realized there’s nothing wrong with staying a kid inside. The only difference being, you can enjoy yourself at the movies without ruining the experience for those sitting around you. And you can still enjoy video games, why the hell not? I know a 38 year-old clinical psychologist (female) who unwinds from the stress of her days by playing an hour of PS3…any game that involves shooting stuff up usually helps.

    Age is a state of mind!

  53. Sarah says:

    Totally enjoyed your blog! I am a 40 year old mother of a 15 year old son, so this is some great perspective for me. Love your pic of you in your tie. You will find a perfect job, no doubt! You are highly employable, any company would be lucky to get you (now imagine me pinching your cheek).

  54. Melissa N. says:

    Your tale of being recently graduated and unemployed echoes my situation exactly! I graduated in May ’09 in the Communications field as well, and I’ve been on a grand total of 1 interview in the year since graduation. It gets extremely frustrating when employers don’t even respond to tell you you’ve been rejected (is it bad that I get a little happy when I receive a rejection e-mail? 😛 It’s nice to know there are SOME humane people behind these companies!).

    I also can relate to feeling a tad ashamed when I get into conversations with friends or relatives. They all think something should have come along by now, and I end up giving everyone the same old tired answers or not wanting to talk about my situation at all.

    But, I digress. Thanks for writing such an enjoyable post, and good luck in your future endeavors! 🙂 Apparently, we’re not alone.

    P.S. I have been called a granny by my younger 20-year-old sister. Certainly not one of my proudest moments, but sometimes those hooligans need to grow up! 😉

  55. Irene says:

    Ok, so you’re at the stage where your friends are getting married…

    “Guess who’s going to have a baby?”


    “SO and SO’s parents are retiring.”


    “SO and SO’s mom (dad) just died”

    I’m going through the stage where my friend’s KIDS are getting married or graduating college!

    And please let me know when you reach adulthood. I haven’t gotten there yet……

    Your blog is great! So many can relate to it!! Kudos!

  56. lactosuria says:

    I don’t think im that annoying… Am I? lol


  57. piggyy says:

    Burk, it’s Ryan Neal from MU. I can’t believe I found you like this. I empathize completely. I talked to Berkley and not many people from our class are working.

    I am working a million hours a week at a small paper in Monmouth Ill. for $9 an hour. Every day I slip more and more in debt because the pay doesn’t even cover expenses. I have to get another job to pay for my first job.

    I’m trying to be optimistic. I hope with all the fantastic clips I’m piling up I’ll be able to get a job right before all the newspapers go out of business.

    Good luck job hunting. It’s brutal. It might be best to just go back to grad school for law or something.

    • burkpkrohe says:

      Good to hear from you man.

      It’s rough out there. I have a promising lead, though. I had an interview today at a community weekly for an editorial assistant position, and it went well. If I get it, I would mostly be helping the news editor sort through press releases to find stories, but I would also get to write and design.

      Good luck at that paper. I’m sure it will lead to something.

      • piggyy says:

        Ya, I was surprised that any starting position requires you to design, take photographs and write. I hated design and editing when I took those classes, but I’m glad I took them now.

        Good luck with that job. You might even write about it. It looks like you have a lot of followers.

  58. Maureen says:

    Awesome post. You nailed it right on the head. And I LOVE the motivational poster.

  59. Chris says:

    Gosh yeah, soooo right.. I am getting to that age aswell

  60. Barclay says:

    Great Post! I can relate to many parts of it. However, my personal favorite is the “Punk Ass Kids” one. Kids annoy the hell out of me. What’s their deal? When I was a kid, I don’t remember being such an a-hole. I probably was, but I don’t remember it, so it doesn’t count. Great post.

  61. technonoob says:

    Awesome article! I completely feel where you’re coming from, actually took my second marriage to feel like an adult.

  62. itzexodus says:

    I can relate to this very much. I’m only a rising sophomore in college, minus all the drinking, because it’s just not my interest. You hit the nail right on the head with a lot of these things. I feel like I’m getting older with all these new responsibilities, including job searching. It’s a whole lot of pressure on my life. It’s tough.

    Yeah, a lot of the people I know around me are really foolish and engaged in all this stuff, but I plan to steer clear. Anyway, good perspective and I really enjoyed your post!

  63. williewizzy says:

    That’s so real! A phrase of life everyone will have to get through.

  64. kellycosby says:

    I really appreciated this… I’m halfway done with my undergrad and I keep getting glimpses of the real world looming ahead. You have a great writing style, and I hope you don’t have to deal with the stress of a job search for too long. Yes, I creepily investigated your about me page, and a journalism degree from MU will definitely help ease that stress — and that’s saying a lot that I’ll admit it, since I go to KU and spent two years in the J-school here! Good luck.

  65. 79sparrows says:

    2 thumbs up, Very nice!!!!!

  66. Hey man, you’re a very talented writer. I wish you the best of luck in your journalistic exploits. Sometimes I’d like to write editorials and opinion pieces, but I’m too mired in my own tribulations that I end up expounding on them with heavy, outright emotion instead of crafting pieces like yours. I like your style.

  67. trouble13 says:

    So true! I actually work at a high school now and catch myself shaking my head and muttering, “freakin’ kids” a lot. Funny how time turns the tables!

  68. I was just thinking about this! It’s scary that many of my friends are getting engaged/married or moving in with their significant others, meanwhile I live with my parents and am in the midst of my quarter life crisis between undergrad and grad school.

    Good luck on your job search! I graduated last year too, and am now interning full-time to gain experience and explore new industries. It helps me deal with the social stigma and “shame” people put on you for being “unemployed”, however I get a lot of negative feedback too.

  69. nerdythings says:

    I love the day you realize what an annoying little shit you were at one point. I feel so terrible for the premature aging I caused my mother at 15.

    And yeah, I can’t decide if weddings are just becoming more frequent occurences in my life, or if I am just being exposed more often thanks to facebook… but I am not digging it.

  70. vgirl29 says:

    Great post! I can identify with all of it-I’m turning into my mother!!!

  71. Who wants to be an adult? They spoil all the fun; make everything a competition, and judge what they do not understand–then pass it down to their children. But now the child is a loser–just plain bad. Could the child really be creative and bored and dancing to the beat of his or her drum?

    Being employed is important. We all need to pay the bills. I notice people who have jobs talk down to those who do not. Who knows what the future holds?

    If I were an employer, I’d visit my businesses dressed like a “homeless person,” (one’s perception of how a homeless person dresses) and make phone calls and speak to my customer service representatives. I’d get the names and customer identifications of each and everyone who disrespected me. “Goodbye,” I’d say and go to the unemployment lines to meet, greet, and hire my new employees. It is all about Respect.

    I agree. Being unemployed is a situation, but it does not define you. It is an opportunity. It just doesn’t feel like one.

  72. evie says:

    this is so funny and frighteningly true at the same time!! i thought it was just me. i realize at the ripe old age of 25 that i’m just not a kid anymore. i didn’t think there was a huge disparity between 21 and 25, but there kinda is. sad… but enlightening at the same time when you finally gain the maturity to both recognize and accept this fact.

  73. Great post! It’s so scary how true this is. I’m in the same realization of my life.

  74. robfreund says:

    I’m totally there dude. I almost feel like I’m trapped in some kind of awkward “man-child” phase where you can’t enjoy yourself as a kid anymore, but you haven’t figured out the “real world” yet either.

  75. Kalynah says:

    This blog post was amazing! Being that I am a junior in college right now, I could really identify with at least half of the things you wrote, and when I saw the picture of the nintendo, I almost died. I definitely had one of those 🙂 Great job and I truly hope you are talent scouted soon!

  76. Colin L Beadon says:

    Age only worries if you think about it, and tend to look in mirrors, or ponds. It is better to be a romantic, all your live, and refuse to feel or think yourself old. Stay as close to nature all you can.
    When you see too many leaves have fallen, you’ll know it is your time too, and so lay down and join them. That way you won’t have to worry about such a thing as age, any more. And lovely women will still walk over you, for ever.

  77. missbrenmark says:

    This was great! and so very true! While I was never one for jackass stunts, all the people I hung out with were. Its nice to know I’m not the only one being roundhouse kicked to the face by adulthood!

  78. Liras says:

    You will always be young at heart, however, with your rapier-sharp sense of humor.

    And there is something about a tie that gravely announces ” adult male here.” But that is a good thing!

  79. Jon says:

    This was great. I can feel you on this. Keep up hope. I went a while the last one. And, now I’m moved out and working.

  80. Rachel Coussens says:

    I bet your degree is in journalism–me too! I feel like I could have written this blog post. I love your post, so honest. Hang in there and remain optimistic! 🙂

  81. shutterboo says:

    Just because we become adults doesn’t mean we have to grow up. 🙂

  82. Valerie says:

    Great post! Now as a parent I find myself spouting the same thing to my son that my mother said to me. Growing up, I never wanted to become an adult and dreaded the moment I would become an “adult.” Now the one thing I can teach my son is to enjoy your childhood because adulthood comes with responsibilities.

  83. I’m a girl, but I’m very near your situation. Now, I feel like any time I’m not working, I’m freeloading. It’s weird. It’s getting harder to tolerate being home and be treated like a child. Yeah. This was a great read. Thanks for posting!

  84. I’m not even over 9 let alone 18!

  85. raisingable says:

    I was in the same position in 1979 graduating in the middle of a recession at the tail end of the baby boom. The best solution was to take a less-than-desirable job and move out.

    No more being treated like a child because I was acting like an adult.

  86. sabrinaswindow says:

    I’m 22 and going through exactly the same thing, growing up! Adolescence really does last longer these days..

  87. Jess says:

    Dude. I can relate. Took me FOREVER to find work after I graduated and I had to pretty much had to beg my employer to hire me. Thankfully it worked out, but I was left with little pride…Good luck to you!


    P.s. Love reading your blog :).

  88. pbandchutney says:

    Poor thing! So much to deal with in the near future 🙂 I’m sure you’ll be fine though. Very clever post, thoroughly enjoyed it!

  89. BothEyesShut says:

    Dear Mr. Burk,

    Though we must strangle ourselves daily with the affront to nature that is the necktie, we do not have to hate the transition from what was once a good time into what is now a good time.

    I noticed that nowhere in your piece do you suggest that adulthood is looking desperate or dismaying to you. In fact, you describe the shenanigans of your youth with a sort of bemused disdain. That’s appropriate. It helps us appreciate our yet-youthful adulthood.

    I’m not much older than you, Sir. I wouldn’t sing the praises of maturity even if I were. However, I do feel compelled to mention — that adulthood is worth everything, if only for the sole benefit of getting to date educated women with refined tastes (and experiences), rather than the clumsy, obnoxious drama enthusiasts who peopled our high schools.

    Cheers for some truly entertaining work, Sir.

    Yours Truly,


  90. reythehussein says:

    Bravo. I’m sure it’s been said in the 91 posts what have come before this, but me effing too.

    (um, except i’m employed. i’m single tho’, so let’s replace the unemployed bit with “this is my single and barren son”)


  91. Jessica says:

    Oh my yes, I’m terrified to graduate from college. I have about 14 hours left in my degree and I’m spreading it out over the next year. I keep thinking “I’m too young for the real world!” Good luck with the job search!

  92. jeremy says:

    Well man, I have past those years long ago it feels like. I agree with everything you said 100%. This was a great read! Here is an idea… have you ever thought about writing for a living? You are pretty good at it. I bet you could have someone post this same article in a newspaper or something. Do not worry.. .life just happens. One day you will wake up.. and you will be wondering how you made it this far in life.

  93. classicjean says:

    i’m right where you are, man.

  94. letsblade says:

    Great post! I just turned 27

  95. road2writing says:

    Just wanted to compliment your Blog format, what with the neat resume and writing samples, that seems mature to me!

  96. Just found your blog – nice one =) WIll come back and read more posts!!!

  97. Great, honest post! I graduated last year and it was almost a whole year before I got a job writing, and even then, I work multiple contracting jobs. It was actually a very instructive experience for me….that unemployment sucks!
    Good luck for the future

  98. Bean says:

    SO true. I was jsut talking about this with some friends the other day.

    Another things you might add:

    1. Closed-toed shoes (for women) – the WORST. I miss my birkenstocks.

    2. Having to wash your hair – don’t get me wrong. It’s not like I would go a week without shampoo…but when you’re working, three days just isn’t kosher anymore.

    3. When you start to think, “I would just perefer a quiet place we can talk instead of that bar with loud music.” The day that came out of my mouth I just about hit myself in the face (only my grandma would say something like that).

    4. I realized that college students I’ve met don’t even know about Bill Nye the Science Guy. Seriously??

  99. Tori says:

    I just recently went through the “Holy BeJesus, am I a loser?” phase. Good news is that you can look at this all with a humorous eye, and EVENTUALLY you’ll get a job!

  100. Amaranth says:

    Going through more-or-less the same thing, recent college grad, unemployed, and living back home, but it was interesting to read about it from the opposite gender’s view.

    By the way love you the “Facebook is watching you” image. It’s so true…

  101. drgonzo619 says:

    Very funny post. Good luck job hunting. I too had a job where I had to wear ties everyday, but I was recently promoted to a job where the office environment is business casual. I will never wear ties again. NEVER!

  102. oneretweet says:

    Great posters. Especially the Star Wars one. Signs of the times.

    I wasn’t prepared for the economic downturn at all. Many of my friends from Grad school Still haven’t found work one year later. Even with one of the most respectable alumni networks out there.

  103. Hey, even a stormtrooper can find work somewhere.

    I hear they are hiring down that the Quick Stop

  104. jordansabey says:

    realy deep made me think. i better work harder i graduatte in four years.

  105. Great post… Loved the points that you made….

    How do I know I have become an adult?
    1. I spend the weekend doing laundry and cleaning the place up.
    2. I seem to enjoy walks to the park and visiting the art gallery
    3. I am over and done with social networking and don’t find text messages or instant messaging exciting anymore.
    4. I don’t like the words ‘dude’ or ‘lol’.
    I am also in line to be like my grandma given that I have already started turning grumpy.

  106. Juana says:

    Incredibly true, even though I’m employed. Well done, sir.

  107. You’re so right. I feel there aren’t any differences between America and Germany – I am experiencing pretty much the same.
    But please buy a different tie than the ones in the photo 😉

  108. Leigh-Cheri says:

    Completely understand, cheers from Mexico. 2 years since graduation. I have had a couple of jobs and depending on how much they paid me (of course not on how much I liked it) my parents wore concerned faces and used to talk with me about “thinking about the future”.
    I realized I was becoming an adult just a month ago, when I had to pay my “graduation gift” car´s taxes.
    All night partying seems like thousand years ago and I´m seriously thinking about deleting my FB account, after months looking at my “happily married” friends and deleting my incriminating photos.
    Where is the finish line?
    Maybe as my father once told me, life is much easier than I thought: stressful paid work, exhaustive family life.

  109. jcdaniels2010 says:

    I completely agree with everything on this list! Sounds a lot like how I’m thinking & feeling these days.

  110. bandgirl says:

    I raised 5 sons and it is a riot for me when they realize that they sound just like us and are now irritated by the teenagers. What goes around comes around. The son who caused us the most trouble and aggravation just recently got some lip from a teenager. He said he suddenly realized that a few years ago he WAS that mouthy teenager. I love it. Welcome to my adult world.

  111. Sounds like you’re a great voice of our age-group. Great job 🙂

  112. I feel like I can relate to this post. I’m graduating from college in December, heading off for an internship for a couple of months and then God knows what else. I have friends getting married and people I went to high school with having babies. I’m really start to feel vincible for the first time in my life.

    Good luck with the job hunt! Best wishes weathering this economic storm!

  113. I love that you used Ferragamo ties! Cute picture!!!

  114. rainedog87 says:

    lol. I just graduated from college this past december and I totally know what you mean when you said, “I just can’t drink like that anymore.” I remember back in the day (about 4 years ago or so :P) when me and my best friend would drink every night (even weeknights) and sometimes we got s***faced drunk instead of studying for exams…

    Because of my heavy drinking and since I survived alcohol poisoning twice, I unfortunately cannot drink booze anymore. :/ Not even wine or beer.

  115. simple solution. become a self made millionaire. you work for yourself- no need to change your facebook, you have a job, can make your own hours and wakeup at 11 if you want, wear what you want, or if you must wear a tie wear a fun one (a 19th century bowtie comes to mind), think of weddings/graduation/other events as a going away party (and have some fun, afterall youll probably never see those people again as they are busy with other things- aka babies) and with all the money youll have you can buy youre own theatre or build one in your house.

    embrace adulthood. as a kid you were lucky to live the life you did. now that youre an adult you have the freedom to create the life you want. so make it one you like!

  116. Judge Pow3rs says:

    Feel your pain man, at 26 years old I find myself referring to children as “punk-ass kids” and constantly reminiscing about “the good ‘ol days”. Sad really.

  117. gloriadelia says:

    1 sign you’re a good writer: Your post was long, but I didn’t mind reading it!

    Congrats on being freshly pressed!

  118. Kuf Knotz says:

    Great Article- totally agree with all of it 100%.

  119. redroze says:

    i feel you homie

  120. PT says:

    Great post, I’ve been fighting the urge to grow up for the past 14 years. However I’m finding young people more and more annoying!

  121. mct88 says:

    Hey, I’m right there with you! Although, I was blessed with a job 6 months after graduating (09). How it happened?! I have no idea, especially since I live in SoCal and got a job in LA County. Albeit even with my job, I’m not fully capable of getting my own place, dang student loans!

    And marriage… without fail, every one left and right is dating, seriously dating, engaged, getting married in a week, married, or having a baby. HONESTLY?! My mom is starting to form a bandwagon. “My daughter is single and I want her to get married, ‘PLEASE HELP!'”

  122. thecodger says:

    I commend your decision to shun the hippie lifestyle. Too many people fall victim to it. You will no doubt find much success in your life in the future.

    The Codger

  123. Ashley says:

    Great post! It’s like a completely different point of view when you are an adult vs when you are a teenager.

  124. Great post! I am all over the “calling it a night” section. I have become the QUEEN of calling it a night. I used to party for days on end, and then my liver, stomach, brain function, eye sight and use of my limbs gave me a big fuck you! Typically, yet rarely, I get hangovers that last upwards of two god damned days. I guess this is what I get for starting at age 14…oops!

  125. William says:

    I like the post. I’m way past my twenties. I thought the legal age for drinking in the US is 21?

  126. Michael Rosenbaum says:

    My publisher just did a survey of recent college grads and you are not alone. All those lessons mom and dad thought they were teaching over the years didn’t register….we could all have saved a ton of time and just unloaded all our great wisdom the day after graduation.

    Meanwhile, if you are so inclined, check out my advice to new adults at:

    Michael Rosenbaum
    Your Name Here Guide to LIfe

  127. stine79 says:

    Nice one. And, it only gets “better” 😉

  128. prepdiary says:

    speaking of being unemployed, I know a lot of sponsored students (as in they are given scholarship by the national bank or a multinational oil and gas co.) complain about being bonded to the company for so-and-so years after they graduate.

    Personally, I wouldn’t mind. Although I’m still doing my A-levels, but I’ve been monitoring the job market lately. Looking at the volatility of the economy, I wouldn’t mind being bonded to any company for that matter (I’m a regular, non-sponsored student) it would give me ease of mind to know that I will have a career opportunity after I graduate.

    Good luck in all your undertakings!

  129. mysoulforsale says:

    What’s most interesting in this whole “growing up” thing is that, if you’re not careful, you’ll get further and further from your essence until you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. Take care to not let your life slip away from you.

  130. Miss Kitinn says:

    Hey. I feel you brother!

  131. Megahan says:

    I hear you man! Just wait until you get that job that you’ve bought the tie to go to the interview. And you’re getting up and putting in 9-5 Monday to Friday. And then Saturday comes. You don’t have to wake up to an alarm – it’s thrilling…. until you wake up at your “going to work” time anyway. And you’re WIDE awake.

    That’s the sign it’s coming… the day when you get up at 7am for no particular reason.

  132. rayshine says:

    This is soo true.

  133. Dana says:

    Just wait a few years! Things get crazier as you get closer to thirty!

  134. robocooker says:

    Just do what I did, find a job that does not require ties and and stimulates your creative side. Some people might say that being an adult means to do what other “adults” do, but most adults are boring. I told myself I would rather starve than get trapped in some stupid job, just to be adultlike.

  135. reenski says:

    Reading this, the only thought I had was… “Yep.”

    Sometimes I miss not being a grown up, and other times I look forward to this brand new adventure.


  136. sonsothunder says:

    Very well written, funny, and personable…you’ll land a job real soon I’d say. Keep the blogs coming like this one, and you’ll have a following. Soon, you’ll probably be sustained over your computer, by the financial means of a large publishing companies advancement. GOD BLESS

  137. oisforoxygen says:

    I feel like I was just reading my life, only with a few masculine twists added. It’s like no one tells you when you’re a kid that these things happen as you get older, and then it just hits you like a brick wall.

    It’s nice to feel like I’m not the only one out there. I’m twenty now and I’m taking a break from college for a while, and it’s a lot trickier when you don’t know what you want out of life and feel like all your childhood goals are just a waste of time, and no one seems to want to acknowledge your intellect or talent if you don’t have a degree to back it up.

  138. basia says:

    The creepiest is when I find myself relating to a teenager, like the grocery cashier complaining about her “lame ass” friends, and then realize: I’m 10+ years older than you! Huh.

  139. xiaohui says:

    Haha this is a great post, love the way you write. I’m one of those who just graduated from university too, and everything seems to be changing. My friends and I are talking about employment opportunities, settling down, and the precautions to take regarding your facebook account, and we’re changing our wardrobes: in with the working clothes and out with the teenage jeans and funky tops. Feels abit surreal, abit reluctant to embrace these transitions into adulthood, but I think it’ll be awesome once we realise our past didn’t come and go in vain. All the best in your job-search! 🙂

  140. MY GOODNESS, you are wordy.

    Noto much left to imagine here.

  141. This post made my day. It couldn’t have been more true even if I’m a girl. =)

  142. jabanet says:

    Another clue to adulthood is worrying about who is going to clean this up instead of damn this is a great party.

  143. What you’re writing about here is EVERYTHING that I’m writing about being afraid of in my blog. Slowly but surely, as my last year of undergrad looms ahead, I’m not quite sure where I need to be more adult and where I need to enjoy my youth while it’s still there (not that I’m getting old, just that I’m getting to real-person age).

    What about dreams? Where do these come into play in being an adult-person? I do stand-up comedy around the city. I feel like in college it’s fine to say that I want to get paid telling jokes into a microphone. But then I feel like post-graduation it becomes a silly wish or dream to others rather than a cool interest and ambition as it seemed in school.

    I just want to dream on. Ugh. Can’t I just stay a junior forever?

  144. lifo9 says:

    Not that I’m trying to rush you along, but wait till you get to your 30s and you’re married. Your life will consist of kids, drool, dirty diapers, play-dates, forging new relationships with strangers who have kids and salvaging established relationships with friends who don’t. Great post.

  145. Man, growing up sucks. I just graduated college and am putting off the “real job” search as long as possible. Hooray for summer camp and exchange programs!

  146. Lorraine says:

    i hate to tell you this, but i’m 58 yrs old and everything you are going through i went through back in the 60’s. except we had sex, drugs and rock and roll back then, when it was all new and different. i’m about to get together for the 24th year with all my roommates from college for the memorial day weekend. we laugh cuz we no longer can stay up past 11pm!!!! you sound like a good guy, and i wish you all the best in your journey. savor every moment!!! “growing up is hard to do”, but when you have good friends, some alcohol and hair growing in appropriate places, it can be quite a ride. peace!!

  147. framez says:

    hey there… who r u ?how did u read my life?

    this is a great post…..

  148. Loved the post, man. Funny, yet very true. I’m still in college, but I identified with most of what you said.

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  150. very nice post. You are quite insightful which tells us, you’ll be just fine!

  151. BeneathTheSpinLight says:

    Big fan of this post. Keep it up! 🙂

  152. There’s a lot of points in your post that makes sense. However, college isn’t always a big party- some of us have to juggle college with work so we can have enough to support ourselves. A big struggle but I think it defines personality so I can’t complain 🙂

    Mrs. This One

  153. Jayzi says:

    when I was 18, once my dad told me that u’re now a grown woman,and yeah,that was the first time I realized that I was no longer a kid, and therefore began to become an adult,then I turned 19 and felt totally old,now I’m still 19 and I don’t see any difference between myself and people over 25. right now I know EXACTLY what I’m going to do with my life, and am working/studying so hard for it,
    everything is set.
    to be honest, right now, i wouldn’t want to go back to my old days when my greatest fear was how to sneak out of the house to be able to hang out with my friends ,
    i like who i am now, and am looking forward to the most amazing things i’m about to do in the not so distant future,
    for me growing up was(or IS since it’s a life-long process, i suppose) amazing…

    p.s: I’m from some highly religious developing country somewhere in the middle east! …. i am sure u don’t realize how lucky u r, do u?! enjoy…xx

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  155. Jonathan says:

    There are a lot of native cultures who believe a boy only becomes a man when they hair their first child. Fair enough in some regards

  156. Durraiya says:

    Crazy man!! these signs are just so true!!! good article . keep it up!!!

  157. Mohamed Jameel says:

    yo hav mentioned the phases of life
    its mindblowing and thought provoking abt the steps v hav 2 take towards the ultimate peace.
    Soon u will get a good job
    all the best bro.

  158. Mars says:

    funny and so darn true!

  159. sinbalas says:

    Ok , I am the last to many comments

  160. barrymanana says:

    Olives! It was when I started liking olives – that was the marker!

  161. elisabethschreibt says:

    just love your writing style x)!

  162. your not old until the term college kid rolls off your tongue.

  163. J.H says:

    Great post, can relate to nearly all of it.

  164. Akanksha says:

    So easy to relate to. Great read! Congrats on making it to the WordPress dashboard. Thanks for sharing!

  165. PixelJuggernaut says:

    Ha, jesus. Are you sure you’re not me?! I’m finding myself in the exact same position, leaving university, no job, babies and marriages everywhere! The only difference I can see is that the kids aren’t annoying me……..yet. I suppose it’s because I’m still a bit of a jackass still!

  166. Oh no…except for the tie, I’m an adult already!

  167. adalcourt says:

    Great post. I never really gave adulthood much thought I just kind of accepted that I had a world of responsibilities just suddenly thrown onto me. At least it felt rather sudden.

    I can relate to your final point, unemployment. Don’t let it get you down. I’ve been looking for a little over a year now. I don’t have the luxury of living with my parents so it’s extra hard emotionally to be unemployed. After about 3 months I decided to go all out and settle for whatever job I could get (which apparently is none) and focus on getting the job that I want afterwards- although I certainly kept an eye out for field related jobs. At about 12 months, I started to consider going back to school – though with no money coming in and the parents not being an option survival seemed unlikely. Which raises the debate of the validity of a degree over work experience. All that to say, that unemployment has a way of kicking you in the rear and ruining your self esteem and self worth by association (seriously would you have considered that retail job straight out of college? Or were you actually hoping to get some real money for some meaningful work?)

    Keep your chin up and keep looking. Something will turn up. It can’t stay bad forever.

  168. woahthatsdeep says:

    Another sign of becoming an adult: You start to like oatmeal, anything with the word “healthy” (can you believe that there are now shoes that claim to make you healthier as you walk?)…you’re even considering jogging, and you’ve started to browse the self-help section.

    It’s tough, growing up. I console myself with the thought that whenever we lose something to life, it comes with an equal or even greater benefit, i.e. We lose our youthful good looks in exchange for wisdom. And also, having to constantly eat our words, and to see how ridiculous and self-centered we were (still are) when we were younger, is one hell of a humbling and sobering experience. Hey, if anything, it’s a character building experience. As another “unemployed loser,” I can relate.

    Thanks for writing this.

    • woahthatsdeep says:

      Upon reading the ‘about me’ section, your life is way more accomplished than this entry made it sound, tough. You’ve been on NPR, which is no mean feat.

  169. ciel6 says:

    Just hilarious dude. Great writing. What makes it interesting (and maybe not so funny) is that it’s based on a true story. Keep your head up and stay strong, the job market is worse in NYC. I feel the walls of my “JOB” closing in myself, trust me.

  170. MaunderingMe says:

    I Love this!! So True!

  171. bronxboy55 says:

    Great post, Burke. The party is definitely over (at least one version of it).

    I wrote an essay a few years ago from a slightly older perspective as our second daughter approached her high school graduation. I hope you’ll take a look when you have a minute.

    Good luck!

  172. Lex says:

    I graduated the weekend before Memorial Day after having been looking hard for a full-time job since the previous November (when I passed my departmental comprehensives and therefore knew I would graduate). I landed my first job in late June. Those seven months might have been the longest of my life.

  173. Halo Reach says:

    Wow, it’s like you lived my same life and are repeating it back. Eerie.

  174. bosnae says:

    I completely understand what you ‘r talking about. Now I’m 22, and In the phase of graduating… Seeking for a job and other bullshits are comeing. Well, It’s life… for 20 years I’ll say: “Where the f**k I spent all these years”…

  175. dirtyspoons says:

    It was so refreshing to wake up this morning and read your post. I still have a bit of time until I graduate from university, however I’m already starting to have that irking feeling that adulthood is waiting for me down a dark alley. Your post (which was hilarious by the way) made me feel more optimistic, and even though a closet full of ties may be waiting for me, I now feel an iota better about it than I did yesterday.
    Have you seen the movie Greenberg? It echoes your sentiments wholeheartedly and is worth a watch.

  176. templehunter says:

    Say ‘Hello World!’ for this is the future.

  177. linnybeth says:

    It is so funny to hear of your experiences, because I come from a totally different family, where you work thorugh school. You get a job. You get out of the house asap. After reading this post, I am so grateful to my parents for being the way they were. Now, I can see their intentions really were for the best, and ultimately beneficial. I suppose it takes a lot to say that. I would have never even ventured into that zone of thought years ago, but adulthood really does change and affect everyone, wether we are willing or not. Good luck with everything, and I look forward to reading more from you!

  178. footieflu says:

    I’m almost in the same place as you are… I’ve just got 1 exam to go and then i too will be in search of that job. Oh and the thing about weddings is sooooo true. Just yesterday we were all playing together at my grandpa’s backyard and now those same people are sending you wedding invites.
    hahahaha… life’s like that!

  179. absolutsteph says:

    I have one more year in college, and I always tell myself that when I am way older, I’ll make sure I won’t forget how to have fun and feel young. Adulthood can be scary, but I’m sure it’s got its own perks. Even if I am turning 21 this year, I still feel like I’m eternally a teenager.

  180. jonnysoundsketch2 says:

    If you work as well as you write, you have a pretty good looking future ahead of you.

  181. Rebecca says:

    hahaha that was a great read! I’m 20 and I graduate from university in 6 months, then its job hunting for me too!! Good luck with it all, i remember when adulthood slapped me in the face. I just keep telling myself there’s a time and a place for everything, just because you have to be professional at an interview/work doesn’t mean you can’t have a food fight or throw popcorn at the movies every now and then 🙂

  182. Your post makes me smile.

    Before you know it, you’ll be smiling at those punk-ass kids again, thinking ‘there’s nothing new under the sun,’ and they are so far from knowing it.

    I can remember and relate to almost everything you say, except the ties.

    I checked out your blog today because you are a new(?) writer. So am I. The only thing is, I’m probably closer to your granny’s age.

    Looks like you’ve got a way bigger following than I do, but if anyone is interested in the olden days, send them my way.

    I’ll keep tuned in to your progress embracing the scary side of the fence!

  183. Your post makes me smile.

    Before you know it, you’ll be smiling at those punk-ass kids again, thinking ‘there’s nothing new under the sun,’ and they are so far from knowing it.

    I can remember and relate to almost everything you say, except the ties.

    I checked out your blog today because you are a new(?) writer. So am I. I get my MS in Written Communication next June. The only thing is, I’m probably closer to your granny’s age.

    Looks like you’ve got a way bigger following than I do, but if anyone is interested in the olden days, send them my way.

    I’ll keep tuned in to your progress embracing the scary side of the fence!

  184. CC says:

    And I love this! I identify… when I turned 20 I was like, “this is it, I’m a big kid now and there is not turning back.” it made subsequent years easier on me because I was ready for it. being a nurse made the job thing easier because I had one before I graduated college, but I definitely understand on most of the others. sigh

  185. klouism says:

    Wait until the cynicism sets in…

  186. Too funny, and too true! But here’s one you’ve yet to encounter: You know you’re an adult when you make a doctor’s – and especially a dentist’s – appointment without being told. Oh, and when you happen upon an unexpected chunk of money – and it goes straight to bills. 😉 Oh! and when you CAN’T sleep late, even when you want to. I once slept until 4 in the afternoon, back in my college days. Now, if I sleep until 8, it’s a miracle.

  187. atxjoe512 says:

    I really enjoyed this post. I am in my early twenties and could not agree more… I don’t want to grow up one bit! I loved days not having to worrry about money, work, food, etc. Life should be worry free!

  188. This article should be titled “Signs I’m becoming a Corporate Clone”.

    Being an adult does no equal wearing a tie, stressing about employers viewing your Facebook profile, or fretting over how society views your inability to find a job (times are tough..start your own company).

  189. Elizabeth says:

    great post! It is so true.

  190. hayadith says:

    i noe what u mean..i dont believe that i mad at my brother over same things my parents mad at me couple years back..

    karma dude..haha

  191. Rinatsu says:

    Being adult isn’t that bad. Just try not to be very pessimistic and boring. ;P
    Time passes people change… ;}

  192. 79sparrows says:

    GREAT point about the facebook/privacy/employer/image issue.

  193. […] in Uncategorized This is a response to this article by burkpkrohe, titled “Signs I’m Starting to Become an Adult.”  I highly suggest […]

  194. Great post! I find that the older I get, the more I think like and understand my father. Just wait awhile and it will probably happen to you too.

  195. stephenjohnson87 says:

    This post is really cool, but you know that from the amount of response it has received.

    I’m at that part in my life where I’m not not grown up but I still need to a little.

    The unknown is scary only because it is unforeseen. I bet the future is ok, probably quite good in the end.

  196. qwithouttheu says:

    Hahaha… I can totally relate to those feelings and the “holy crap everyone is getting married” realization. I think my “adult” status hit me hardest when I realized that I was frequently being called “ma’am” by strangers and clerks instead of “miss”. How the heck did THAT happen?!

  197. TOC says:

    I would kill to be so ‘old’ … Wait ’til your doctor (when you realize health insurance ISN’T an option you can forgo) starts explaining the benefits and NECESSITY of cholesterol medicine… a month after you’ve run a marathon.

  198. Jessica says:

    This post made me laugh a lot hahaha I am about to graduate college in December and am not looking forward to it at all. I still want to drink three nights in a row and party hard all the time but real life it catching up to me. Its weird and I don’t like it but hey at least girls don’t have to wear ties 🙂 thank god

  199. Nikole Hahn says:

    Great post. I thoroughly enjoyed it. yeah, it sucks to grow up. LOL. Actually, I hated high school. My life began at 30.

  200. nickdunne23 says:

    Thank you for this! This is totally how I feel, even as a person who is still in college.
    It’s a harsh reality to face at times, especially when you want to go out and do crazy and fun things but your life is inhibited by the standards we set on what it means to be an “adult.”

    I actually wrote a reflection/response to this on my blog.

    Please feel free to read and comment!
    Once again, thank you for posting this!!

  201. juatw says:

    Thats aaaaaaall true!!! xD I know how’s that ¬¬’

  202. WULU says:

    bro this is all too true.

    i relate to this way too much.

    i wish i had doc’s delorean right now.

    these last four years went by way too quick..

  203. Elias says:

    It sucks to be unemployed, but hey, at least you have a blog.


  204. Benjamin Jones says:

    A very entertaining post! There is much truth to what you said about becoming an adult. If these are the signs, then I must already be one despite not yet having started college. Keep on trolling!

  205. hoiden says:

    wow i’ve realised that there wud be these many people in the same situation…kinda silly….btw i can really empathize coz i’v just graduated and i’m looking for a job too…

  206. shenanitims says:

    From what I’ve read, ties are (sadly) going the way of the dinosaur. You might need a couple for interviews, but not so much after that. Of course then, you’ll be writing a blog about banging your head against the wall that is employment…

  207. Mosh Kamunoko says:

    Dude, You totally right. It’s the same even down here in Southern Africa. SPOT-ON!!!

  208. Marvi Marti says:

    Seems so long ago I was there…welcome to adulthood, it isn’t all bad!

    Bummer about the unemployment but keep looking. Took 18mths after I lost my job to find another but I’m back to work. Good luck!

  209. Parker says:

    Hey Jerk, why don’t you put some ads on here and make some money. your writing was featured on I was just logging in to to get my API key, why dont you get a site and make some money writing. or write for demand studios. I’m no success story but I make money online and have a part time job at a grocery store…..swallow your pride and get a shitty job…then you wont be the unemployed son. 🙂 nice article.

  210. Misteriousness Al says:

    Eh..well, it seems more like you entered the age-based social construction of adulthood, and have along the way adopted adultism as a rite of passage.

    But good luck with the employment. Hope the government doesn’t keep up destroying private productivity.

  211. stillscapes says:

    I’m laughing at your great post! I am 50 (yes, an old adult) with my children who are 23, 22, and 21 — the oldest having just graduated from college. Two oldest are girls, the youngest is a boy who is in the Marines now after two years in college . I must forward this post for reading to my oldest. With more and more folks my age on Facebook, we often laugh at some of the things kids in high school and college post. No holes barred!!!

    Thanks for the post. I think of myself as still young, not old, and I guess 50 is the “new 35” (at least in my mind).

    Good luck! I will follow your posts as you post your travels through adulthood!

  212. etcher101 says:

    I should make my son read this. He’s about to turn 19 and dwelling in my basement like a troll and going to a community college and when he’s not going to school, feels that summer vacation is his God given right to enjoy as a college student. When we bring it to his attention that he’s not exactly striving for the life that’s waiting for him “out there” he responds with “I want to stay a kid forever”. Too bad he’s confusing “maintaining childhood ideals” with “lazy, irresponsible bum that won’t get the f**k out of my basement!!”.

    Thanks for the other perspective!!

  213. vainproducts says:

    You are dead on! Currently going through a mini-mid-life crisis thanks to a combo of these!

    This year alone: 4 of 6
    -Punk-Ass Kids
    -Calling It A Night
    -A Considerably Different Facebook Page

    Awesome… Great post!

  214. Liz says:


    Your blog inspired me, so I decided to write one on the same topic. I hope you don’t mind. It’s just from a girl’s perspective though. Check it out if you want.

    Your blog was awesome, and really good for a laugh.

    Totally understand where you’re coming from.

    Liz 😛

  215. girlindistress101 says:


    I would definately agree with what you are saying. It’s as each day I become an older person with more things to worry about and more things to add on “To Do List!”. For God sakes I am even considering making a Bucket List!

  216. Tania Ramonde says:

    Great post!
    I’m feeling those same things as I graduated from college last year and spent this one working. Life is different. 🙂

  217. a9sz says:

    you’re an awesome writer and i must say that everything you wrote is just too true. good luck with job hunting!

  218. […] up in the last year, in all sorts of ways I didn’t realise I needed to. Then I ran across this post on Freshly Pressed. It’s funny: he’s clearly in a different stage of adulthood than I […]

  219. Genuinely brought back memories (not so distant for me). Although I still get away with a shortage of ties. At almost 26 and in the throngs of a recession it just means I’ve had to up the job applications to 100 a day and fortunately it’s paying off. Good luck and hope you stop by to read one of my posts:

  220. The real turning point is the day you are the one complaining about how loud the music is, instead of being the one the neighbors feel they must call the cops about.

  221. I am an adult, but I feel unhappy.

  222. thatrichardlopez says:

    I always wanted to be 231…

    Oh, well…

    I look forward to what you do next, unless of course it’s private. In that case, whatever you do after that will do. (And it better.)

  223. juvsan29 says:

    I liked it, it was funny and I have to say that now, luckyly, I´m still making my degrre but soon I´ll be in the ties age.

  224. lookingforsomethingtofind says:

    I’m 21, and a junior in college, so I’m sort of not an adult and an adult. Anyways the marriage things is the biggest surprise to me, it hit me when I was on a camping trip with some friends, I was the only single guy.

    After my associates I did the whole job interview thing, everything from insurance, clerical, the whole semi-entry level sha-bang. Hated job interviews, either wouldn’t get the call back or it would be one of those scam jobs you see on monster jobs and the like. Realized I want to delay that whole thing for as long as I can. I can empathize with you there.

    Lucky for me I have a bit of peter pan syndrome, and my parents have warmed up to it, as long as my grades stay good, they can say something good. So after college, for me, grad school, and then cross my fingers a job the offers me allot of travel. Probably going to try and be a consultant, choose who I work for, all that. I’m definitely feeling the whole, can’t binge drink, sleep two hours and feel okay. Adulthood sucks.

  225. A Mall Cop says:

    In that case, I guess I became an adult when I started working as a mall cop. It is a job that neatly combines tie-wearing and buzz-killing.

    The real turning point for me was when I started chasing teenage skateboarders off mall property while conveniently ‘forgetting’ that I used to think skateboarding at the mall was COOL!

    Of course, it stopped being cool when the people paying my wages told me it was not cool to let those damn kids ‘terrorize’ paying customers at the mall.

    ~ A Mall Cop

  226. fdaray says:

    At 18, I don’t accept to be called adult. Adult ages is when you are not growing anymore.

  227. fdaray says:

    Yours truly is an adult already, but my mind is young at heart. Adult is not a time for life . It is a state of mind.

  228. Zone Blog says:

    i like all your photos that shown on your article..
    really nice article

  229. knightleyemma says:

    Hey Burke!

    I can relate to this a LOT; I was unemployed for 9 mos. twice in my (young) life! I lived w/ parents also. After 30, I keep hearing “ma’am” ALL the time (and I look young, too). It makes me a BIT sad…

    Best of luck on the job search!


  230. As I learned in the children’s book, The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, it is important not to turn into adult:

    * The King who can “control” the stars, but only by ordering them to do what they would do anyway.

    * The Conceited Man who wants to be admired by everyone, but lives alone on his planet. He cannot hear anything that is not a compliment.

    * The Drunkard/Tippler who drinks to forget that he is ashamed of drinking.

    * The Businessman who is constantly busy counting the stars he thinks he owns. He wishes to use them to buy more stars.

    * The Lamplighter who lives on an asteroid which rotates once a minute. Long ago, he was charged with the task of lighting the lamp at night and extinguishing it in the morning. At that point, the asteroid revolved at a reasonable rate, and he had time to rest. As time went on, the rotation sped up. Refusing to turn his back on his work, he now lights and extinguishes the lamp once a minute, getting no rest.

    * The Geographer who spends all of his time making maps, but never leaves his desk to examine anywhere (even his own planet), considering that is the job of an explorer.

    Turning into a bitter adult who any works to buy things that aren’t worth owning and drinking to feel alive again, this is what we have to be-ware of. Be responsible for yourself is fun, this is my favorite part of growing. I am 23, fresh graduate, and I love making my own rules, though I have to follow societal rules, but I only do it to the extent needed to survive in it.

    I plan on never becoming an adult, never losing my sense of wonder and appreciation of things others consider too small to look at. As long as I do this I know I’ll be fine. This and a job so I can move out of my parents house because I know I will turn into a content freeloader. This would be the death of me.

    I suggest reading the book, it really changed my outlook on life.

    ( )( )

  231. thrillette says:

    Your blog just inspired me to blog, and blog about things that matter!!

    I LOVE YOU!!!!! =)

  232. Songbird says:

    Well, I’m in my 40s and I’m still looking for those signs….

  233. Growing up isn’t all so bad, as apparently if you write a post on it you get a taste of what it was like to be David Bowie in the Ziggy Stardust days judging by all the fan-mail you got.
    I can only dream of a 240-odd comment day. Its a temporary goal until I find a proper job or means for excitement in my life. I have become mildly obsessed with the little graph on my dashboard telling me how many people have looked at what I’ve been up to. Competing with myself surely is a bit silly.
    And, as many others have said, you have reflected the situation for a horribly large proportion of 20-somethings. I graduated a couple of years ago and am still living like a student. Clinging on desperately. Trying to keep up with my friends who are still studying. Sort of the lifestyle equivalent of a middle aged divorcee who thinks she’s still ‘got it’ and wears too much make up and leather mini skirts she found in her attic kept back from her misguided youth at that old biker bar in the late 1970s.
    The most poignant part of your post for me was the punk-ass-kids bit. I work in a music venue so whenever the teenybopper bands come to Manchester, I find myself horrified and scorning the sight of pre-pubescents flirting with each other and sneaking vodka in past security in their underpants. I get asked ‘weren’t we all like that once?’ and that I should therefore give them a break. Well, yes, maybe I was… but that doesn’t mean that they should come along and cause me wrinkles and anguish.
    Oh and I do remember being ‘antiqued’ once coming out of the bathroom, courtesy of my brother and his Jackass-loving friends.

    I read your ‘about me’. I feel you are the male cross-Atlantic version of me.

  234. outofthecastle says:

    I love this post- I’m a writer in my early twenties basically struggling to come to terms with the fact that I’m less than one year from graduation and from “real life”. I love knowing it’s not just me. Thanks for making me laugh!

  235. tuesday12 says:

    Thanks for sharing this- it’s always nice to be reminded that I’m not the only one out there who’s noticed these things! Good luck with your job search.

  236. Mohit says:

    Graet going dude , your story resembles every man’s entry to manhood , i bow my head

  237. Interesting post, I’m 17 turning 18 next year. Gonna suck having to enter adulthood I suppose. I started feeling more like an adult once my parents cut me off financially, and I had to find a job and pay for my own clothes, food and entertainment :/

  238. Mike Force says:

    Great post. The 21st century is about starting your own project, whatever that is. Our country doesn’t hand out jobs to anyone anymore.

  239. Lion says:

    wonderful post!

    i too never thought I could be annoyed by the youth and there sometimes thoughtless ways lol

  240. […] interesting. Maybe for women it’s when they start hanging out with guys who wear ties? “Signs I’m starting to become an adult” by Burk P. Krohe. Posted in people. Tags: random thought. Leave a Comment […]

  241. You have great insight and took a humorous approach on the transition between a student and an adult! Your blog is sophisticated, yet relatable! Your metaphor about the tie is funny! 🙂

  242. jqtothemax says:

    Awesome post! 🙂

  243. Susanna says:

    Here’s to hoping you’ll get a great job sooner rather than later! I think we’ve all been in that position at one time, or at least something similar. Don’t allow yourself to become discouraged and always make a conscious effort to put your name out there. Luck will be on your side sooner or later (hopefully sooner).

  244. Shannon says:

    Awesome post.
    Here’s to adult hood 😛

  245. barrymanana says:

    On a rare visit to a family reunion I found myself sitting around a dinner table with my extended family. I have a different lifestyle to my many brothers who have had so many divorces they go through marriages like other people go through boxes of tea-bags.

    I’m not single, just unmarried, and therefore in their eyes ‘unmated’ and outside the sacred circle of wive-and-two-veg married bliss.

    During the meal, one brother’s newly-married wife leant over to me,and said within earshot of everybody, in a stilted voice, ‘so…you… never… have… been… married?’ like I’m afflicted or something, and I replied, ‘no, but… I’ve… never… been…. divorced… either’.

    Burke, I wouldn’t get in a panic over middle-aged Smugsville – the real fun happens before and after it.

  246. neilwadhwa says:

    This is exactly how I feel, I’m at the same point in life and everything from the ties to facebook just reflects who I am lately

    Great post!

  247. natinanorton says:

    Fabulous post! I found myself laughing out loud!

    Punk-Ass Kids, Unemployment, & Calling It a Night I could especially relate to. I’m also unemployed at the moment and living at home with Dad (check out my blog on the topic) where being introduced as unemployed is the least of my worries.

    The night my friends and I had a “dinner party” and finished the evening with a modest dessert and coffee rather than a 2am bar hop and karaoke, I knew my youth was officially over.

    Best of luck and keep up the good work!


  248. samhenry123 says:

    When you do get a job. Do not trust anyone. Keep your resume updated and keep your eyes open. Unless you go in the military or get lucky to land a federal job. Be careful or you will end up like me. Good luck.

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